LISTEN TO YOUR KIDS

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Posted on October 28, 2013
Brenda Brown, Board Member

Brenda Brown, Board Member

I previously wrote the following on Tuesday March 13, 2001. I had children in High School at the time of this writing.  I was living in Northern California, it was published in 16 Bay Area County newspapers.  I wanted to share this as October is NationalBullying Prevention Month.  My children are currently 28, 31 and 38.  I have my first grandchild on the way due in April.  Parenting is the hardest job in the World, in my opinion.  However, it is a privilege as well.  Please read on:

Have your kids been the victim of a bully?  Have they witnessed this behavior?  Maybe your child is a bully.  I want all parents to remember when you were in school and ask yourselves the same questions.

I’m a parent of three.  I’ve heard of kids being in class and struggling to understand the work, and a teacher says, “Of course you don’t get it,” all you care about is sports.  Teachers need to be mindful of what they say to our young people as well.  Parents, (you) need to look within yourselves and ask, is there anything you are doing to demean your children as well?

Some of you may think, this (bullying or abuse) could never happen in your home with your children.  Trust me, it can.  Take responsibility and be accountable.  Whether you have an athlete or maybe one who some might consider a nerd, both types of kids have similar issues.  They’re the same.  Stop hearing and start listening to your children.  There is a difference.

Kids, if your parents won’t listen, find someone who will.  As parents, naturally we provide for our kids by working and providing a safe home environment for them.  I know there are some parents who don’t spend a lot of time talking to their kids.  Maybe you are tired from working or had a bad day.  In either case, start listening.

It is time you start being bothered by your children instead of being overwhelmed by your own lives.  Remember your children were given a personal invitation by you to be here.  Be a good host.

 

 

 

Updated Guidance for Medical Professionals: Screen for Abuse

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Posted on January 25, 2013

A recent article on CNN.com reported that the U.S. Preventative Services Task Force
(USTSPF) updated its guidance on domestic violence screening recommending
that all women of childbearing age be screened for abuse, and women who screen
positive should be provided or referred to intervention services.

This comes at a time when roughly one-third of women and one-quarter of men
report experiencing some form of domestic violence, also referred to as inter-
partner violence, during their lifetime. Unfortunately, while these statistics are
alarming, the numbers are almost certainly worse, due to the systematic under-
reporting of abuse.

“We have made significant progress in building the evidence base to effectively
prevent violence against women,” said Dr. Virginia Moyer, chair of the USPSTF, in a
written statement. “We now have the primary care methods and the means to help
prevent violence against women in their reproductive years.”

The task force continued to say “that although abuse of men, abuse of middle-aged
women and abuse and neglect of elderly and vulnerable (physically or mentally
dysfunctional) adults can have equally devastating consequences as violence among
younger women, there is currently not enough evidence about how primary care
clinicians can effectively screen and intervene.”

Principal problems include the lack of standards as to how clinicians should
question patients about abuse; varying definitions of abuse; lack of screening tools,
unclear guidance on who to screen, and what to do if abuse is identified.

The task force also issued a draft statement on primary care interventions to
prevent child abuse.

“The bottom line,” said task force member and pediatrician Dr. David Grossman, “is
that more research is needed on how primary care clinicians can effectively screen
and protect all populations, including older and vulnerable adults, middle-aged
women, men, and children, from abuse and violence.”

Source: CNN.com, Mon January 21, 2013, http://www.cnn.com/2013/01/21/
health/task-force-violence/index.html

Categories: Domestic Violence, battered women, child abuse, elder abuse, sexual
abuse, articles, verbal abuse, emotional abuse

“GWEN Talks” with Betsy Chasse

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Posted on January 20, 2013

On Saturday, January 12, GWEN’s COO and Co-Founder, Tess Cacciatore,
spoke with internationally known filmmaker, author, radio host, blogger and
speaker, Betsy Chasse, on a GWEN Talks teleseminar.

Betsy, Tess and conference participants spoke about how to face life with
honesty and integrity, and how one can rise out of the ashes after a tragedy to
find inner purpose and passion.

Betsy shared with candor her successes and failures that led to her personal
transformation — the serendipitous journey of co-writing and directing the
internationally acclaimed film “What the Bleep do We Know?” to her painful
divorce, which left Betsy a single mother of two. Betsy’s journey to the dark side
led her to question her life, her actions, and eventually she realized she was
perpetuating a story that wasn’t authentic.

Betsy came to understand her issues around her worth, or lack thereof, was self-
created and how she pre-defined how to act to put on a show for the world. After
soul searching, she realized she was not being true to herself and had to start
accepting herself for who she was and not by a predefined script.

“You can get caught up in that story and you don’t like yourself. You know you
are not being authentic in the world and it starts eating away at you. I needed to
love myself. It is easier to love yourself, when you are being yourself,” said
Betsy.

Betsy was able to find her true and authentic voice, learn to embrace that voice,
and accept that life is full of trials and tribulations. However, you have the ability
to create your own story, where difficult or painful incidents do not define the
story but are elements you meet and overcome along the way.

Ask yourself “Is this crises in my life going to rule me, or is it just a part of
my life that I have to deal with?”

Betsy’s most recent projects include an upcoming book, “Tipping Sacred Cows”
and a feature film “Killing Buddha.”

Listen to the Teleseminar