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Posted on October 28, 2013
Brenda Brown, Board Member

Brenda Brown, Board Member

I previously wrote the following on Tuesday March 13, 2001. I had children in High School at the time of this writing.  I was living in Northern California, it was published in 16 Bay Area County newspapers.  I wanted to share this as October is NationalBullying Prevention Month.  My children are currently 28, 31 and 38.  I have my first grandchild on the way due in April.  Parenting is the hardest job in the World, in my opinion.  However, it is a privilege as well.  Please read on:

Have your kids been the victim of a bully?  Have they witnessed this behavior?  Maybe your child is a bully.  I want all parents to remember when you were in school and ask yourselves the same questions.

I’m a parent of three.  I’ve heard of kids being in class and struggling to understand the work, and a teacher says, “Of course you don’t get it,” all you care about is sports.  Teachers need to be mindful of what they say to our young people as well.  Parents, (you) need to look within yourselves and ask, is there anything you are doing to demean your children as well?

Some of you may think, this (bullying or abuse) could never happen in your home with your children.  Trust me, it can.  Take responsibility and be accountable.  Whether you have an athlete or maybe one who some might consider a nerd, both types of kids have similar issues.  They’re the same.  Stop hearing and start listening to your children.  There is a difference.

Kids, if your parents won’t listen, find someone who will.  As parents, naturally we provide for our kids by working and providing a safe home environment for them.  I know there are some parents who don’t spend a lot of time talking to their kids.  Maybe you are tired from working or had a bad day.  In either case, start listening.

It is time you start being bothered by your children instead of being overwhelmed by your own lives.  Remember your children were given a personal invitation by you to be here.  Be a good host.




Facebook Friend: Somatic Abuse is Real

Posted by GWEN
Posted on February 27, 2013

One of our Facebook Friends shared a story about her 7 year old son who suffered what is known as somatic abuse by his teacher. This is her story:

“My son started to have stomach pains in the night at around four in the morning…he was 7 years old. We took him to the ER many, many times and they could find nothing wrong. We took him to a pediatrician who said the pain was somatic (psychosomatic) and a sign of abuse.

I got to the root of it when his little friend told me the teacher on Friday mornings would dump my son’s desk out onto the floor in front of his peers and make him pick it up and put it back in a orderly fashion. He would cry as he did this and kids would snicker. It went on for a long time before I got to the bottom it.

When I went to the school, my son’s father had to hold me back or I would have jumped the desk and choked the life out of that teacher. She no longer had a job after I was through with her. No more stomach pains for my son…Momma bear fixed it!!!!!!”

Lorraine provided the following resources on somatic abuse:

Psychosomatic symptoms linked with abuse – Public Service

Children with multiple psychosomatic symptoms are twice as likely to be suffering abuse at home, says the study.

Thank you, Lorraine G, for sharing your story!

Elder Abuse, Use of Shelters Rising

Posted by GWEN
Posted on February 01, 2013

The 74 million baby boomers born in 1946-1964 will double the number of
Americans age 65 and older by 2030. The combination of this demographic’ s large
and growing population and the fact people are living longer means the number of
seniors being abused, neglected or exploited is growing exponentially. The situation
is compounded by statistics pulled from a recent article in The Daily Journal stating
some research indicates one in 10 seniors have suffered some form of abuse at least

To meet the growing challenges, shelters, such as the Shalom Center in a northern
Cincinnati suburb, have started to provide shelter, along with medical, psychological
and legal help for elder abuse victims. The Shalom Center is among a handful in
the country addressing issues that will only continue to grow with the age of the
nation’s population.

One woman in her 70s living at the Shalom Center was previously lived with a close
family member. Unbeknownst to her, that family member syphoned her money
by overcharging for groceries and she suffered physical and emotional torment,
sapping her spirit and strength. “She just yelled at me all the time. Screamed at me,
cussed me out,” the woman says of a family member. “I don’t know what happened.
She just got tired of me I guess.”

Collecting data on the number of senior abuses is difficult given the majority of
cases go unreported out of embarrassment, fear of being cut off from family or
confusion about what has happened. While the Obama administration has said it
has increased its focus on protecting American seniors by establishing a national
resource center and a consumer protection office, among other steps, the reality is
that social services budgets are being cut and funds for areas such as elder abuse
investigation have been slashed.

On a state basis, however, some progress is being made. New York City started its
Elder Abuse Center in 2009 to bring a multi-organization approach to the problem,
saying nearly 100,000 older people are abused in their homes in the city alone. The
Weinberg Center, also in New York, provides short-term emergency shelter for
victims of elder abuse aged 60 and older, and helps other communities replicate it.
It has assisted shelter startups in upstate New York, Connecticut, Rhode Island and
Minnesota along with the Shalom Center in Ohio.

“Are these older people going to be allowed to live their lives the way they deserve
to?” said Carol Silver Elliott, CEO of the Cedar Village retirement community, of
which the Shalom Center is a part. “We really are not addressing it as a society the
way we should.”

Source: The Daily Journal, January 31, 2013,